Anyone reading this knows that life can deliver its fair share of hardships, while to each person a different hardship maybe equally as difficult as another’s, depending on the context and perspective and the situation itself. These hardships can knock us down, fast and hard…and fear or hurt can land us in a space of sadness. This stage of sadness can drain the energy or will to begin the steps or actions needed lead us into a more positive place.
I often post that you are the only one responsible for your life. There is a great, and inspiring, short video with Oprah Winfrey, that discusses this. I also share a quote by Denzel Washington, related to when falling down 7 times, you must get up 8. I also frequently post that you have to create the life you want.
It is unfortunately too easy to become unproductive, give up, or just hide in waiting and hope that things will just get better in this stage of sadness. We each have the choice in this situation to transmute the energy of fear and hurt, to push is forward… allow it to lock us down in hiding and panic. When things are hard for me, I tell myself that I can always choose to do nothing and rely on empty hope, which will give me a known result…or I can try. I may not be able to control everything, but I can control some things that will help me position myself to get to a better place that I wish to be. I can try to rise above and leverage the hardship as a learning experience, and not be taken down so easily while faced with adversity. I tell myself that I have one chance at life, and only one today…so I must, in respect and gratitude to the miracles and gifts of life and time as a limited resource..I must take positive action.
We have to find a way out of the stage of sadness…search for it…search for answers on how to…always work to force your mind to de-prioritize the focus of fear and hurt, and instead force your mind to find solutions and reason to come out of the situation ahead and better…force yourself to create the life you want. You will never become happier while being sad…