Written in jest…kind of… as my online dating experience has definitely led me to confirm that ‘The One‘ is a real thing…but not only because I believe in soul mates, but because there appears to be so few possibilities out there…likely only one could possibly work out, at this pace…
I have had my face licked within five minutes of meeting someone…and nothing that could even be considered a ‘normal’ lick (whatever that is)…but more like a Clifford the Big Red Dog lick, with a slobbery tongue explores my grill from chin to forehead as a spoil of near snail trail…
I have shown up to a date, many times, to find out person is married. Once even, the person says, “I am not even the person in the pictures, but you are so funny I had to meet you!”… so many ‘amazing’ experiences, but all where well outside the spectrum of possible Love.
I find so many out there shop online dating sites in the ultimate objectification of another…they shop, and if you aren’t good enough, they upgrade…even if you might be good enough..they don‘t take any time to find out…walking on eggshells. They seem to objectify the person and the process as though another human being is a product. A 4k HD focus on “what will this get me” or “it’s only about my happiness”.
Relationships, in the early stages or later on, should likely be premised on the therapy prescribed cliche of ‘each person gives, so each person gets’. I used to think that statement was annoying and ridiculous, but I do get it now…I am a jack of all trades, and can fix anything…and I love to give. Because of this, so often, the relationship quickly evolves into my giving and not receiving, and quite frankly, unsustainable…
I will find my person…and I took about a year and a half off from dating as I needed a break. I am sure many of you have experienced the same type of ‘romances’ (maybe not the face licking type greeting- and no, she didn’t wag her tail)…I continue in hope, to find the person that realizes the ‘Us’ comes before the ‘I’. Each party should make decisions with the first priority being the ‘Us’…right? Otherwise what are we doing this for?
Yes, of course each person must be independent, but I like to put it like this… Two whole people making another whole… like Yin Yang when played 3D, and in motion…two wholes fluidly working as a partnership, working to get the relationship right…and the passion must be there as well… it cannot work if each person acts selfishly or with only an intent to receive…
Good luck out there if you are single and try online dating…I will admit that I have met great people as well…not every needle draws blood.
